Shopping Tips for Every Mother of the Bride/Groom

The wedding adventure isn't just a big deal for the bride and the groom; it's a big deal for their parents too! Here are some shopping tips every Mother of the Bride/Groom should know.

Consult with the Bride
The best place to start is by going straight to the source—the to-be-weds. Have them clue you in to their wedding day vision—how formal it's going to be, the overall style they're going for, and what colour palette they've selected or are thinking about. Since pictures are always better than words, you might also ask them to share some photos they've pinned to their inspiration board so you have a visual guide to help get your search started in the right direction.

Wait for the bride and bridesmaids to choose their dress before you choose yours
That way, you can see the colour scheme that the rest of the bridal party is going to wear before selecting your dress. You don't want to stand out too much from the other members of the bridal party — unless the bride and groom want that.  The key thing to remember is that you want to complement (and not clash with) the wedding colour theme.


Start Shopping Early
It may be your first instinct to leave your dress shopping until all the wedding plans have been done and now it’s only a few weeks before the wedding and you may not find a dress last minute.  We recommend starting your search around the 5-6 months before the wedding. That will give you plenty of time before the wedding day to find something you love, schedule fittings and have any alterations made if necessary
Also, while custom bridal boutiques carry dress options for you, many of those options will require alterations. Don't be afraid to browse regular department stores whose dresses run more true to size and may provide more of a formal wear selection.


Ask your bride for advice on your overall look
See what kind of dress and glammed up look she'd like you to go for on the day of the wedding. Ask her out on a girl's shopping trip so she can help you pick out your stylish dress.  If the bride would like you to wear a style you're not happy wearing or you like something she's not thrilled about, talk to each other and do your best to find a compromise that works for both of you—it's her day, but it's just as special for you and you have to feel comfortable with your choice.


Coordinate With Your Future In-Law
It's a bit old-fashioned, but traditionally, the mother-of-the-bride picks her outfit first, setting the tone for what the mother-of-the-groom will wear. Nowadays though, who buys first doesn't really matter as much, as long as both women are comfortable and feel great in what they decide to wear. You and your future in-law don't have to match, but you should make sure your looks don't clash. Have a conversation to get a sense of what the other plans on wearing (talk about sleeve and hem length, neckline, colour and style). If you get along well you may even want to go shopping together to offer each other style advice and make sure you find looks that coordinate nicely, or alternatively the bride could go shopping with each of you separately and relay any guidelines. If you discover you both want to wear the same colour, choose different shades of the hue for an easy compromise.